How To Recognize A Player

Personality Traits of Players Who Are Hooked on the Hunt

Players, Pimps, Bad Boys, Ladies Men, Casanovas, Womanizers, are different words for the same type of men. Here's how to spot and resist a womanizing Player. 

Before the Urban word Player, he was called a “Casanova”, a word evolved from an Italian womanizer who had over a hundred one night stands. Casanova was a lady killer from Venice; he would wine and dine women, charm them, make them feel beautiful and irresistible, take them to bed, and … move on to the next woman the next day.

Casanovas are also known as womanizers, Lotharios, tom cats, lady killers, seducers, predators and players. Many womanizers have a “line” for picking up women; they have a whole strategy from start to finish. After you learn how to recognize a womanizer, you'll see through his facade.

The personality traits of womanizing Players make them easy to recognize.

Womanizers Players are master manipulators. Though the words “Player”, “Casanova”, “womanizer”, woman’s man and “seducer” may seem flirty and flattering, the behavior of a Player is far from innocent. The sooner you learn to recognize this womanizer, the better off you'll be.

How to Recognize a Womanizing Player

Womanizing Players are charming. They’re attentive, interested, curious – and they make women feel special. Womanizing Players have one goal: to get a woman into bed as quickly as possible and then move on to the next one. They’re seducers who are addicted to the "power" they feel when seducing women. This is one way to recognize a womanizer: they're addicted to the chase and challenge of love.

Womanizing Players are often in touch with women’s feelings, and can adeptly manipulate those feelings to their advantage. For instance, a womanizing Player will express empathy for a woman’s professional or personal problems, and let the woman vent her feelings. Once she feels comfortable and relaxed with the Player, he’ll make his move.

Womanizers are good at what they do.

How to Recognize a Womanizer: The Inner Workings of a Player

Some psychologists believe womanizers or Players struggle with low self-esteem, and their sexual conquests make them feel better about themselves. It’s a temporary high, though. Womanizing Players may have unstable or nonexistent relationships with father figures – especially in early childhood – that makes most of them mama’s boys, which makes them insecure about who they are. Knowing this will help you recognize a womanizing player.

“Casanovas tend to exhibit some traits associated with psychopathy,” says Robert Hare, author of "Without Conscience" in Psychology Today (“The Lady Killer Files”, November December 2007). Womanizing Players may have to manipulate and deceive women to get what they want, and they may ignore guilty feelings – or they may not feel any guilt at all. This, too, will help you recognize a womanizing Player.

Womanizing Players tend to sleep with inappropriate partners, flirt with their friends’ wives, and have a lot of “down low” relationships. Many Players are addicted to sleeping around with different women, but don’t find their sexual conquests fulfilling in the long term.

Recognizing a Womanizing Player Means Resisting a Womanizer

When you think you've met a Casanova, Don Juan or womanizing Player and you don't want to be another notch in his bed post, don't let yourself be manipulated into bed. A womanizing Player will give you the cold shoulder just as quickly as he'll wine and dine you. You need to decide what you want, and stand firm.

Difference between a Womanizer and a Healthy friendly Man

Now the problem with the description of a womanizer is that it does nothing toward giving us a way to discriminate between what a womanizer is doing, and what some guy who is genuinely trying to start a lasting, loving relationship with a woman. In other words, based on the description, we can know a "womanizer", only after the fact. Some guys start out just the way a womanizer does when they are attracted to a woman. This may be just their way of getting to know and explore the relationship. Sometimes in that process, sex comes earlier, rather than later, but just because it does, he should not be labeled a "womanizer" and check him off the list of possible candidates to explore further with. So, what’s the difference between a healthy friendly man and a womanizer? A womanizer’s charm, attentiveness, interest, curiosity and most of their conversation – IS MOSTLY ABOUT SEX and getting you into bed. The womanizer always lies and keeps secrets. The healthy man's woman knows about one another and there are no secrets.  

Womanizing Players probably aren't good candidates for long-term relationships either. If you're looking for a healthy relationship, you need to not only recognize a womanizing Player you need to look past him. Use your GUT LEVEL INSTINCTS, even if you can't see anything wrong, don't DISMISS that nagging feeling in your stomach, move very slowly with men and don't be afraid to say nope this isn't working for me. Good luck and remember if you’re lonely, need attention, crave excitement, just getting out of a bad relationship and haven’t given yourself time to heal or if your are desperate for love, you are an EASY MARK. You’re prey to the sociopathic womanizing Player/predator and he will hunt you down until you give in, break you and leave you worse off than before he came into your life. Cure your own insecurities, love yourself and remember don't ever let a man just guide your reality (he is to share it with you as you with him), if something doesn't feel right, walk away and don't accept his reality as yours. Learn everything you can about bi-polar, narcissism and sociopaths; the more you know the better prepared you are to deal with these kinds of men.

 For some of you women...looks like it is time for an Up Grade!!

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